Organising your own wedding, but sure you must have forgotten something? Use this list to tick off all the big items and a few little ones too. Note this list is based on using a function venue for the reception, I will write about bringing together a wedding on a blank canvas next.
Just remember that this most important part of the whole day is having a bride and groom say their vows in front of a celebrant. Everything else is just decoration. Don’t leave booking a celebrant/minister until the last minute because you cannot get married without them!
Celebrant – Whether it is the minister at the church you have grown up with or a civil celebrant in a garden ceremony, make sure the person you choose makes you feel comfortable. Don’t forget to take your birth certificate, photo identification, and proof of the disillusion of any previous marriages to your celebrant at least one month before the wedding so that they can lodge your Notice of Intention to Marry on time.
Invitations – Make sure you include the date, time, place, dress code, gift wishes, rsvp options and any transport arrangements that affect the guests. Remember to factor your place cards, menus and other stationery so they can match.
Bridal Party – Choose carefully and make an effort to invite them personally. Once you do, you are stuck with them and they are stuck with you.
Attire – Boys and girls alike don’t forget to plan the entire outfit right down to the underwear! Remind the groomsmen to put aside clean socks in the right colour. Consider a special perfume or cologne for the big day.
Photographer/Videographer – The wedding day will spin by in a flash of pretty dresses and fine food. The photos and video are the way you will remember this amazing day for the rest of your lives. Consider the amount of time you want the photographer for, how good their work is (editing is an important skill) and what you get at the end. Do you want an album, prints digital copies or all of the above?
Hair and Make Up – Salon or mobile service at home? How many ladies are joining you and do you have enough room? Don’t forget to eat! Dinner is a long way away.
Flowers – Bouquets, Buttonholes, Corsages and petals. Don’t forget to order a separate bouquet to toss at the end of the day.
Transport – There are six different transport arrangements to consider.
- The Bride, her father and the bridesmaids to get to the ceremony.
- The Groom and his men to get to the ceremony.
- The Bride and Groom, and complete bridal party from the ceremony to photos to reception. Don’t forget to make sure dad gets a ride with someone else.
- Consider transport for the guests if appropriate. Sometimes it is worth hiring a bus to get them all to the reception and then back again at the end of night.
- Bridal party to make their own way home after the reception. When you get picked up in a limo or other fancy car its easy to forget to plan how you are going to get home.
- Bride and Groom to be whisked away after the reception to their first night as a married couple. Consider who is going to drive and plan for them not to be drinking. If they are being chauffeur driven, how do they get home in the morning?